Sheryl Sandberg reveals trauma after husband's death

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After a morning of breakfast and hiking, Sheryl chose to take a nap while her husband Dave went to the gym.

"Adults sometimes flinch a little to this day", Sheryl Sandberg says, when she mentions her late husband Dave Goldberg's name.

But that suddenly came to an end on a trip the couple took to Mexico in 2015. The book is engaging read where you're witnessing Sandberg pour her heart out, upset about not having Goldberg with her and how she's trying to compensate with her loss.

In the beginning, you're saddened by Goldberg's passing, but as you progress chapter by chapter, you begin to heal alongside Sandberg until the very last one where it's nearly as if peace has finally been found.

Now, she tells USA Today that she is impressed by her children's compassion and perspective.

Sandberg said that she will donate all of her income from book sales to fund the nonprofit project.

This time around, it is clear that Sandberg and Grant went to great lengths to be inclusive: numerous book's anecdotes about overcoming adversity come from minority populations.

Above: "Option B" by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant. And I want other people going through this to know it's possible.

Then one day, about a month after Goldberg died, she made a decision to post on Facebook about her grief, her gratitude toward her friends, and her related tumultuous feelings — for instance, coming to believe she would never again feel real joy. And it wasn't until I lost Dave that I really understood how hard that could be for someone who didn't have one, the same way Father's Day is so hard for us now. "Years later, while the sadness lingers, it's not what it was then". The question, "Is there anything I can do?" seems innocuous enough, but Sandberg points out that it is the opposite of helpful, since most of the things the aggrieved wants either feel like an imposition or are impossible. "It was just harder to tell myself", Sandberg says. She was 7. Just unbelievable. "Accepting our feelings rather than fighting them is such a big part of this".

This segment was produced by The Current's Karin Marley. And the second you say that, you're "I'm good".

Be proactive - Use the "Flag as Inappropriate" link at the upper right corner of each comment to let us know of abusive posts. "From the beginning they cared about other people", she says.

I thought at first - I just thought, I'm never going to get through this. I'm supposed to say fine and move on. But there are things we can do to build resilience in ourselves and each other that make us stronger. And I don't know anyone who has lost someone who doesn't love hearing a positive or any story about the life of the person, because we want them to be remembered. So if I wait for that to get better to feel any happiness I'm never gonna feel it. She turned to professionals and friends for help getting through it, and now she's written a book with one of those professionals, psychologist Adam Grant. For example, Sandberg cites findings from psychologist Martin Seligman around the "three Ps" that can stunt recovery: Personalization, pervasiveness, and permanence.